To know that people care about how you're doing when the doings aren't so good—that's what love is!

Few days ago I was given an opportunity to hold a session to a group of students about people personality, love and what we should look for into a person's soul so we can have long and happier friendship, relationship and etc. As usual before a training I was searching for some bonus things that might help/benefit me and the students attending the training, so this week I found and read few amazing books and checked some interesting sites so as sum up I will share this:

---> The 2 Important things that everyone should look for finding a soul mate:
Number one reason to spend time with a guy/girl is that he/she makes us feel happier and he/she is improving our life. Not making us more unhappy, insecure, unsafe, or just plain frazzled! If we want to feel a true love and happiness we must prioritize finding a person who:

1. Values growing as a person

2. Truly understands a relationship serves the double function of "Den of pleasure"—for fun, companionship, sex, laughter, etc. which we as a human need—so we can keep our soul alive with passion and "Laboratory for growth"—the ultimate place of challenge for our soul to be nurtured to grow—where we inspire one another's "character development"—so we can grow into your most esteemed selves.

If one partner doesn't value growth, he won't be ready to deal with non-fun, inevitable conflicts in a high integrity way. As a result, when those aforementioned disagreements, disappointments, stresses, crises, temptations, sadnesses, monetary-challenges, illnesses, vulnerabilities and misunderstandings arise, the relationship will suffer. Nowadays seems like a trend that many people look at a cute, funny, charismatic guy/girl and think: "Yum, yum! I want HIM/HER!" Then some look at loving, happy couples—watch the happy, healthy dynamic between the guy and girl— and think: "Yum, yum! I want THAT!"

---> True love is a 'that'—not a 'him'/'her' True love is not a wish list but a "wish feeling."
And the number one feeling—even before the feeling of love—is the feeling of safety, without feeling safe, you will never feel true love.

To sum up:

We must have trust in our partner's character and prioritize finding a partner who is honest, communicative, and empathic—someone who values growing—so we can feel safe to vulnerably be our truest core self with him/her—so then together the both of partners can support one another to grow into their best possible selves ;) !